Yeah yeah, so I haven’t posted in forever.  Sue me, I’m a busy guy!

The truth is, for about 4 months, I was up to my eyeballs in girls.  I had more success as a sugar daddy than I ever had as a hobbyist.  I’ve taken a break recently for several personal reasons, but I do eventually plan to get back into the game.

However, in the mean time, I think the best course of action is to spin off the sugar baby stuff and focus on that separately from my experiences in the “pay for play” world.  As I’ve hinted at in several prior posts, sugar babies, while technically connected to this world, really function best if you consider it more of a “best of both world” relationship.

Therefore, without further ado, I present to you:

The Sugar Baby Lover

Original, right?

I’ll be repurposing some of my existing stuff over there at first, but the main thing is that it won’t be posted through the prism of this world.  It’ll be treated much more realistically and geared towards an audience that isn’t comfortable in the world that I started out in.  Most sugar babies become sugar babies because they don’t want to be escorts.  By talking about them here, using my existing name, I’m only doing them a disservice.

For those of you who really want to get back to the escorts, the dirty strippers, and the massage parlors, don’t worry – I’m still a perv and I plan to provide you with plenty of interesting content.  Just because I’m branching one part of this site off doesn’t mean it’s all going away.  It just feels like it can be serviced better (hehe) somewhere else.

Let me know in the comments if you agree with this logic, and certainly head on over to the new site and gimme some love (or hate)!

If you’re just now reading my blog for the first time, click on Start Here to look at a listing of all previous posts to date, or just go ahead and start from the beginning.  It’ll get you started, at least, so you’re not lost or confused!


As I mentioned in my previous post, I’m back in the sugar lifestyle and enjoying an overwhelming amount of success.  It’s amazing how losing a few pounds and tweaking my profile has literally opened the flood gates.  When I was first on SA, I was having MAYBE a 25% success rate, and 90% of them were SBs who were more “pay for play”.  Now?  I’m having a 50-60% success rate, and I’ve met 50% of the girls who have responded to my ads.  That’s almost unheard of.  So essentially, out of every 4 messages I send out, 2 respond to me, and I meet one in person.

Now, I’m not going to really go back and hash out how to set everything up to be successful in the sugar world.  I’ve rehashed that both from the perspective of the sugar daddy as well as the sugar baby.  Admittedly, given the turn in perspective I wrote about last time, the Sugar Daddy article should be updated.  I plan to do that, but I’m going to give it a few more weeks on here before I really sit down to analyze my time “hunting” and decide how I feel about the lifestyle.

With all that said, it’s time to recap my experiences!

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I was browsing through my site statistics today, curious to see where my traffic is coming from these days. I get a lot of views/comments on my SB/SD content, so I thought I would see links to other blogs/forums on that. And I did…but I came across an interesting link:

The Sugaring Escort

Alright, so there’s a few things wrong with her post that I’m refusing to ignore. Not only because of how that one snippet portrays me, but because…

1. This woman is an escort.

Don’t let her fool you. She may call herself a SB and reference a SD, but she’s an escort and all her sexual partners are clients. Not that there is anything wrong with that (my blog is full of tales), but the last person that should judge me for foraying into “sugar” is an escort.

2. She has no idea what a true sugar relationship is.

For all of you SBs out there who helped correct my thinking that all sugar was just a cheap form of pussy, you need to get on this woman, too. A TRUE sugar relationship, and not one that is basically prostitution without the girl admitting she’s a hooker, is based on emotion, mentoring, mutual growth, and has very little to do with money OR sex.

I think the most successful SBs who read my blog will say proudly one of two things. 1) They got more in non-monetary value out of their SD than money would have ever helped them. And 2) Their SD took care of whatever she actually needed because he WANTED to, not because she put a price on herself that he agreed to.

Again, I’m not professing to be innocent of talking about SBs like they were just objects to be purchased. But I’ve come around on what this truly means, and being characterized in my former way is not appreciated or tolerated.

3. People get into sugar for different reasons.

Just because I want to find a SB who wants more out of her life and out of a sugar relationship than money in exchange for her body doesn’t make me a bad person or an asshole, etc. It just makes me different from you.

If all you are on Seeking Arrangement for is the highest bidder for your body, that’s great! I wish you luck! But that’s just not what I’m after anymore. Sorry.


So I’m issuing an open challenge to The Sugaring Escort or any other sugar babies who think I’m anything other than “not what they are looking for”. If you want to debate the sugar lifestyle with me, email me. We can have an email exchange between the two of us which I will gladly post, unedited, on my blog for my readers to judge who is right and who is wrong. Or, I would be happy to talk off-site and see if we can come to a mutual understanding.

Either way, I know I’m not wrong about this. Just because I don’t want to pay per hour for access to vagina anymore doesn’t make me a cheap asshole. It means I’d rather support someone who will truly appreciate the total package of what I have to offer instead of money and that’s it.

If you’re just now reading my blog for the first time, click on any of the interesting-looking categories to the left to read some of my past posts, or just go ahead and start from the beginning.  It’ll get you started, at least, so you’re not lost or confused!


For reasons that I can go into in future posts, I’ve taken a long, long break from updating this blog.  Suffice to say, it was a creative drought for The Escort Lover, and there really wasn’t a whole lot worth updating you fine people on.

My, how i have gotten back into the game!

Those of you loyal readers who have been with me from early on probably remember my attempts to become a sugar daddy (start reading here for those interested in the journey that aren’t already familiar) and how spectacularly unsuccessful they were.  I was a young lad back then, and, coming from the hobbying world, I was viewing SB/SD as a cheap form of pussy.  As a cheap bastard, I was looking for girls willing to play for almost nothing, without very much to offer them.  Not only that, but I was pretty grossly overweight at the time too.

Since that saga ended, I’ve actually lost about 60-80 pounds.  I’ve doubled my salary from work.  And, the key to this entire post – I now view SB/SD completely differently than I once did.

Having gone the past 5 years now having sexual experiences (both professional and “in real life”) that have essentially centered around money, I’m starting to really dislike the feeling I get emotionally.  Paying escorts for their body is fine, and I see nothing wrong with it for both sides of the transaction, but I am always left wanting more.  Once a girl has become an escort for you, it’s very difficult, if not impossible, to change the relationship ever again.  There’s no emotions there, really.

The “sugar” lifestyle can be different, if both daddy and baby want it to be.  It can be a relationship that transcends the “pay for play” transaction and evolves into a truly beneficial relationship for both man and woman that is built around awesome ideals:  trust, growth, adventure, respect, ambition, and even love.  A sugar baby doesn’t HAVE to be on a site like Seeking Arrangement to find the highest bidder to pay her for her pussy.  Conversely, a sugar daddy doesn’t HAVE to be on the site to find the hottest chick to fuck.

I rejoined SeekingArrangement (heretofore referred to as “SA”) and completely revamped my profile.  Not only did I load up the pictures of me 60-100 pounds ago, but I changed my profile to convey a few simple facts that have changed for me:

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Get ready. After a LONG delay, The Escort Lover is back!

I’ve done and seen things that you loyal followers will LOVE to hear about!

My first post will be about the thing I’m doing now, which is getting back into the SB/SD scene.

Not only that, but for the first time, I’m opening the floor up to you – that’s right, it’s time to do The Escort Lover’s Mailbag! Email me at with your questions, and the good ones will make it onto my blog in one of my many future mailbag posts.

Email me on any topic – SB/SD, escorts, johns, or sex in general.

Happy hunting, and check back this weekend for my first update!


If you’re just now reading my blog for the first time, click on any of the interesting-looking categories to the left to read some of my past posts, or just go ahead and start from the beginning.  It’ll get you started, at least, so you’re not lost or confused!


I’ve pretty much given up on the sugar baby thing.  It just isn’t for me.  Maybe it’s because I started out as an escort monger, or maybe I just need to be better in relationships, who knows, but it’s not looking like it’ll ever be my cup of tea.  I might get back into it at some point in the future, but for now, I’m spending my entire hobbying budget on Courtnie.  Usually, this is the point where I’d disappear for a few weeks-to-months.  However, something interesting has been happening to me lately, and I wanted to share it with you.  I’ve been getting approached by pornscorts.

Before I explain what a “pornscort” is, let me give you the full story:

I created my Twitter account (@theescortlover) on October 27, 2010.  The original reason I created that account (as well as this blog) is that I wanted an outlet to talk about my experiences and thoughts about sex, not even just escorts.  Because I’m a private person in “real life”, it’s hard for me to talk about myself period.  As I started tweeting and blogging, I started to accumulate followers, who at first were just other escorts and/or “normal people” who were interested in the life I was living.  Then, I started noticing that a whole new class of people were following me:  porn stars.

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If you’re just now reading my blog for the first time, click on any of the interesting-looking categories to the left to read some of my past posts, or just go ahead and start from the beginning.  It’ll get you started, at least, so you’re not lost or confused!


Hello, citizens of the world!

I wrote a while back updating you guys on some of the things going on in my life, and I promised to update you and/or write about some of what I had been dwelling on.  Due to some post topics being moved up the priority list, as well as some disturbances in the Force, I never really got around to doing so.  However, now seems like the perfect time to update you on one of the things I’ve been doing in my life, seeing as how it just ended today.

In that same blog post linked above, I mentioned that I had been seeing my current favorite escort, Sammi.  I haven’t written about her because, frankly, Courtnie soon passed her up, as well as the fact that I have a TON of reviews to blog about chronologically before I can get to her.  Well, pretty soon after that blog post, I asked Sammi if she’d be interested in doing a SB/SD arrangement.  To my shocking surprise, she said yes.  Not only did she say yes, but she agreed to a ridiculous arrangement:  she would see me every week for 3-4 hours for literally the cost she would normally charge for her 2-hour escort sessions!

I couldn’t believe it:  a beautiful woman who had already become an escort was willing to basically lock herself into an arrangement with me where, instead of only paying for 2 hours of her time, I was getting between 12-16!  Why??  Well, it’s because of the primary reasons behind why girls become sugar babies, and one of the main distinctions between sugar babies and escorts:  she enjoyed spending time with me, wanted to develop a deeper, less sexualized relationship, and the security of getting guaranteed money (I agreed to pay her up front for the month).

Well…until everything went wrong.  Read on…

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