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If you choose to be a disgusting, dirty pervert like me (just kidding – I’m actually awesome! :)), you might ask yourself, “Self, if I understand the reasons why I’m doing this (talked about here), I see a bit of the hierarchy of the hobby and what each tier brings me (reviewed here), and I even now know what to expect (chronicled here), HOW DO I CHOOSE?”
Well, Self, here is where I can help you.
The first thing you are going to want to know is what kind of experience you want. Do you want to get your knob polished by a strung-out SW? Do you want to get a massage, followed by various illicit activities? Or, as most of us do, do you just want to have sex with a lady?
If you want to get a rub ‘n’ tug or see a hooker, your first thought might simply be to go to Backpage and search the Adult and Body Rubs sections for your preferred experience, scanning through the photos of all the women, checking the rates, and then selecting one and calling her up to schedule a rendezvous.
I would not advise doing this.
Or, rather, I would advise that you do this with the knowledge in the back of your head that you need to RESEARCH the lady (or establishment) you’d like to visit before selecting her (them).
I would advise that you either START, or TRANSITION your search for a hobby session of any kind with an escort review board. I’ve talked a little bit about ERB’s in prior posts, so I hope not to spend a large amount of time talking about them, but truly, they are the most important hobby tool you can have.
If you want to do anything in the hobby, anything at all, you can find information about it on an ERB. If there is no information about your interested party (SW, strip club, AMP, indie escort, agency, LMT, etc.) on the ERB in your area (it may take some time to find the most-used one), then that person/place is either new or so bad that frequent ERB posters don’t even bother to post about them. Even so, there is always the option of throwing a post up in the proper forum and saying, “Does anyone have any information about xxxxx?” Most guys will respond. I’d venture to say no response within 24 hours is a pretty big indicator that you probably should pass until you’ve been around longer.
Most of the time, a simple search will bring up any number of threads with reviews and/or discussion of the object of your desire. Read through them (keeping in mind that older reviews, while valuable for historical accuracy, MAY often be outdated on the particular person’s rates, photos, level of service, etc.) and you are guaranteed to have enough information to make a choice one way or another.
Now…let’s assume from here on out that you want to see an independent escort.
You might see an ad for a lady on BackPage. You might see an ad for a lady on your ERB of choice. Often, the best way to find viable escorts in your area, view their best pricing structure, see their most recent information, and view their most recent reviews (if any), is to go through a third party screening service. Let me explain.
One of the most difficult parts of setting up a session is screening. The lady has no idea who you are. She has no idea who you’ve seen. She has no information about you other than the information you provide her – that is a perk of being a hobbyist and the downside of being an escort. Especially with the rise of ERBs and the internet, information regarding escorts is so easy to access that researching a particular woman should realistically only take a few minutes.
Prior to the internet (and it is still probably more common than not), when you initiated contact with an escort to schedule a session, she first asked for a list of a few of your most recent escorts visited. She often would call them to verify who you were and that the sessions took place at the agreed upon time, and most likely they would dish a little bit about how you were, what you looked like, did you keep yourself clean, etc. Tedious right? Well, someone came up with the idea of starting a business geared towards making sure that both providers AND hobbyists were legitimate people, and bridging the gap between the time needed to “screen” that guy to see him.
Enter the screening service. For a nominal fee of membership (I have a year-long membership currently), escorts and hobbyists get “verified” by this service, and then hobbyists can select escorts and request appointments with them. The escorts can view limited information about the hobbyists, but they can at least see what level of experience they have, and thus determine whether or not to see them.
In order to join, at least for a hobbyist, you have to literally talk to an employee from the SS over the phone – they require that they be able to call your work or somehow verify your information – in order to verify who you are. It’s a little scary, but supposedly once you pass this step, your information is then removed and destroyed from ever being used or known by them.
Once you are joined and in the door, the rest is easy. You search for escorts, filtering down to the city you wish to see a girl in. You can even do an advanced search where you can choose from tons of options (hair color, price range, cup size, and even choose the options you want to make sure that provider offers) and get a very specific list of potential dates based upon criteria of your choosing.
What you will see, once you look at each girl’s page, is a profile of them – their rate, their pictures, a biography (if they fill it out), their website, a list of the services they provide, their “survey info” (height, weight, likes, dislikes, etc.), and even links to some of their reviews from ERBs (I believe the girls update this themselves, so you should be careful when actually reading these reviews, and be sure to thoroughly research them on your own).
There are then several options, notably to send a request for a session. You basically send a message to the provider, and she can then read your message, look at your information, check your okays (I’ll speak more to this in a minute), and decide whether to see you or not. It’s important to make sure you check her preferred status level before bothering to request an appointment. If she is “newbie friendly”, then she will see just about everyone, regardless of experience. If she is “Basic +5″, she will only see men that have seen at least 5 other verified escorts.
Ok, so all of that is leading up TO the session with a particular provider. But this is not the end of the post – because what you do, and what she does for you, after the session is just as important for FUTURE sessions’ screening!
Once a session is done, you should (I recommend within 24 hours, but I’m kind of OCD about dumping information out of my brain – hello blog :)) log into the SS and “request an okay” from the provider you just saw.
Provider okays (which are a stat you can view in your little profile page) are basically your references. If a provider okays you, then every subsequent provider you try to schedule with knows that you are cool with at least one verified, legit escort. The “okay” process is simple – you fill out an okay request form, where you basically fill in information about your session with the provider, send her the request, and then she logs into her account, reads your request, and confirms that you were an okay customer.
So, essentially, the more okays you have, the safer a choice you look like to an escort you’d like to see. Obviously, there are some escorts that do not want clients that have been with a lot of escorts, because it’s usually a sign that they are not often “repeat” potential, meaning that the lady may not be guaranteed to, even if the session is amazing, hook you as a “regular” that she can count on seeing her often (which is, from all my conversations with escorts, where they make the majority of their money and focus most of their time).
And, as an additional thought, you should also be an active contributor and write a review on your ERB. Even if you feel like you’re beating a dead horse (a lot of guys complain that they don’t write reviews because they are saying the same things over and over again), updated confirmation of a collective opinion only enhances the research of future hobbyists who might want to see that girl. Just like you were thankful that the guy(s) before you posted reviews, your reviews will not be for nothing to future guys who may read your review and decide one way or another how to proceed.
That, in a nut shell, is how and why you screen (and get screened) in the hobby. It ensures, with a safe degree of certainty, that both of you are legit and established, and will have at least a decent time. I can tell you two horror stories of sessions that BOTH went wrong because I did not properly screen them – but that, my friends is a conversation for a future post!
As always, I enjoy giving you guys and gals a little insight into a world that most of you would otherwise probably be completely unaware of. If you are interested, contact me! Leave me a comment on here, or tweet me (http://twitter.com/theescortlover). I love hearing feedback from all of you, and I will always incorporate your thoughts, opinions, and questions into my future posts.
On one last side note – I was put in touch with a new friend who actually blogs about her life from the other perspective from me – from the viewpoint of an actual escort! I haven’t gotten her permission to talk about her or plug her stuff, but if and when I do, you’ll be the first ones to hear all about it